Your Relationship with Money – What’s Holding You Back!
September 23, 2009 by Annette
Filed under Money & Mindset
Have you ever asked yourself the question…”What is my relationship like with money”?
Financial freedom does not begin with your bank account – it actually begins with your thoughts. These thoughts generally stem from your past beliefs about money.
Do you wonder why your money situation in the present keeps showing up the same way as your money situation in your past? If so, then your future is more than likely going to look the same, unless you have a look into your beliefs about money and what might be holding you back.
The first step is to think back to the earliest memory that you can recall when you decided something about money and what it meant to you. Perhaps for you it meant creating pleasure; being about to have an ice-cream when you asked or going to the movies with your friends – or fights between your parents or maybe the feeling that there was never enough and you always missed out. Your own memories about money will tell you everything about who you were, and whether you are still living it out today.
Whatever your money messages were, notice what feelings come up for you today around money and are you still living with those feelings today. Become conscious about your money messages from the past and what beliefs might be holding you back from creating the life your desire now and for your future.
Here is a list of questions to ask yourself which may prompt your memory about money.
- Did you hear your parents fight about money?
- Did you bring friends back to your house or were you ashamed?
- Did you wish you had things your friends had?
- Did you get pocket money? If so, was it the same as your friends or siblings?
- What did your parents say about money and what didn’t they say?
- Did you have to make excuses to your friends when asked to go out somewhere?
- What hidden messages (emotional) did you receive about money?
- Did you get special treats as a child or did you have to be good to earn them?
- Did you feel like your friend’s had better clothes than you?
Remember, this is an exercise to support you in breaking through money patterns and habits – resolving any emotions holding you back – not to add to it. When you do this exercise, please keep this in mind because the people you grew up with did the best they could with the knowledge, awareness and resources. There is always a positive insight inside of every negative, if you look for it.
Look money directly in the eye and face your fears to claim your power back. Unconscious habits will always keep you in a place of self-doubt, unworthiness, insecurity and fear. This then paralysis you into thinking negatively about all the things you say you cannot do, have or be. This will keep you stuck with a feeling of lack and limited thinking which will hinder your success of attracting more money.
Once you have identified what has been holding you back, then create a powerful statement or affirmation for yourself. This will support you in creating a new truth for yourself when it comes to money. For example; I am successful and powerful now receiving $10,000 or more per month. Write your powerful statement out 25 times a day and/or say it at least 100 times a day until it becomes reality and keep going beyond.
Action steps to support your new truth are very important. Remember actions without belief are a waste of time because you will continually keep sabotaging yourself. Stay accountable by managing your money by becoming aware about your spending habits. Seek financial advice if you need it.
I wish you all great prosperity, success and abundance.




Author: Annette (162 Articles)
Annette Stanton is the Founder and Director of International Life & Business Coaching, a company devoted to teaching self-employed professionals, coaches, entrepreneurs and healers worldwide how to consistently live their inspirational lifestyle and business vision...with purpose, passion and prosperity. The Author of highly acclaimed book (now in it’s second edition) The Power of Vision…The 7 Secrets to Personal, Business and Financial Freedom. This book is designed to help you take yourself, your life and your business to the next level of success with more clarity and more confidence. While Annette is best known for her expertise in lifestyle and business vision success, her students share that her biggest impact comes from her philosophy of “Designing your Life and Business to create an Extraordinary Lifestyle™” – ensuring both, your life and your business, revolves around your own personal values. This, Annette says, is the most important key to bringing a business owner their ultimate happiness, abundance and wealth with a soul-satisfying lifestyle. You can learn more about Annette and her courses, programs and products at www.AnnetteStanton.com.au