Remain focussed on what you truly want in life…

Remain focussed on what you truly want in life and feel it as though you have already achieved it with every cell in your body. Catch yourself whenever you start to focus on what you do not want to happen.

You will always attract into your life whatever you put energy and focus into with feeling and emotion.

Coaching Tip

Most of the time your fears of what you do not want to happen are based on past experiences, limiting beliefs and listening to others’ limiting beliefs.

It’s like going through life looking in the rear-view mirror and wondering why life always looks the same. You would continually run into obstacles and blame others for getting in the way for slowing you down or even making you stop in your tracks. Take control of your life by looking through the front windscreen of the vehicle in your life and start focussing on what you want to achieve.

The key is to know where you want to go, create an action plan and then stay present, living fully in the moment and enjoying the journey.

3 Simple Steps to Changing Old Habits

Do you ever feel you don’t have any self-control, that your impulses are driving your behaviour? In other words, are you taking actions in a lot of areas in life, but not in the areas where you set your goals? Remember that we human beings are creatures of habit. If you want to change your behaviour, it takes commitment and a conscious practice until the new behaviour becomes a new habit which supports you. Did you know that it takes 30 consecutive days to change a habit?

For example, you may have set up a goal of wanting to spend more time with your family, but you keep allowing work to get in the way. In this situation the natural habit is spending extra time doing work.  The first step in changing this habit is to design a new behaviour (action) that will allow you to spend more time with the family. For example, you might allocate Sundays to doing something special with the family, plus you could agree to turn off the phone so that you can fully enjoy the experience. Make sure you communicate this plan to your family, so that they can keep you accountable to your commitment.

I work with many people who want to also have a life outside of work, yet the recurring pattern I see and hear is that they never seem to get on top of things and before they know it, time goes by and they miss out on a lot of what’s important to them. The most common things my clients say they want to spend more time on are: ‘exercise for my own health and energy’, ‘spend quality time with my wife/husband’, ‘time to listen and play with my children’, ‘quality time with my family’, ‘time out for myself’.

Notice how easy it is to spend time doing the unimportant things first. You may be concerned about the paperwork that has built up and think that ‘if I just get on top of this one, then I will make time for me and my family’. What do you notice happens?

There are 3 Steps to Changing your Habits

Step 1 – Awareness

The first step to change is becoming aware of your habits and what your triggers are. Most of the time we are so busy ‘doing’ life that we do not take time out to become aware of who is it we are, what is it we are doing, how we are doing it and why we are doing it. You will never become aware if you keep on doing whatever you are doing, without becoming consciously aware of your actions. Awareness is the first major step towards change. Once you register your awareness, then you can go to step 2 to accept and release your habits.

Step 2 – Accept + Release

When you become aware of your habits and triggers, it is only then that you can accept and release the habits that do not support you in your life. You accept and release a habit purely by stating that this habit does not support you in your life and you choose to now let it go. It is easy to be attached to a habit because this is the only way you consciously know how to manage your life. The good news is that you taught yourself through habit in the first place and you can choose a new habit at any time. It is normal to feel as though you are stepping into the unknown, because that is exactly what takes place in the releasing of habits. This takes us into step 3 of re-creating a new habit to replace the old habit.

Step 3 – Re-Create

This is the fun part, of re-creating your habit. It is important to remember that when changing a habit you must replace it with a new, consciously supportive habit. Consciously choose the new habit you would like to start practising in place of your old habit.

Let’s say your old habit is ‘not listening to people fully’ and you are always ready to speak over them, even before they have finished saying what they wanted to say.

You then may decide for your new habit, that every time someone speaks to you, you will stay totally present, listening to what they have to say – and that you will only answer them after they have stopped speaking. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Try it yourself and notice what happens. The next time you are speaking to someone, you will probably jump right into the conversation and repeat your old habit. You then might walk away, noticing that you did it again and didn’t fully listen. The second time you notice, you want to jump in and you catch yourself. Great; this is the power of becoming consciously present to your actions and reactions. The third time you will become fully conscious and choose your new habit at the beginning of the conversation.

To speed up the process of re-creating yourself, take on the practice of visualising yourself living the new habit in its perfect form now. See yourself being the person you want to be and see yourself having the results you truly desire.

What are your re-occurring Habits?

Start to become aware of your habits by choosing your re-occurring patterns from the list below. Then choose your top 5 habits and begin to change these in a way that supports you in your life by using the 3 steps above.

- Lack of money
– Relationship problems
– Career I do not like
– Not sure of what direction I want to go in
– Health problems
– Never enough time to do the things I want to do
– Always feeling under pressure
– Not always being honest
– Lack of energy
– Family problems
– Lack of confidence
– Lack of commitment
– Being overweight
– Being argumentative
– Always worrying about something
– Giving too much to other people
– Sense that I have to get ahead
– Plan to get fit but never do
– Always wanting to be in control
– Feeling of being lonely
– Comparing myself to others
– Feeling of not being worthy
– Weak and submissive behaviour
– Aggressive and domineering behaviour
– Not allowing other people to support me
– Not being organised
– Not doing what I say I’m going to do

6 Most Powerful Steps in Achieving your Projects and Goals

Life is full of projects and goals. Home related projects such as the garden needs an overhaul or the shed needs clearing – Personal related projects like updating your Will or writing the book you have been dreaming of for years – Work related projects such as reviewing your business plan or updating your website.

One of the most common questions I am asked is ‘how do I overcome procrastination’ and start/complete the things I know I need and want to do? Here is the 6 most powerful steps that will support you in achieving your projects/goals.

1.  Write down your project with a deadline

Having a clear end result of your chosen project and a ‘when by date’ are both the ticket to freedom. This can decrease stress by motivating you into action. Any anxiety about completing a project is usually related to ‘inaction’ and this uses up an enormous amount of energy. When you state your readiness to achieve a clearly defined goal with a ‘when by date’ in place, you release this energy into good use towards achieving your project/goals.

2.  Choose someone to hold you accountable

Put ’supportive accountability’ in place. When left to our own devices there is a tendency to procrastinate in your action orientation, especially when it relates to a project that takes us out of our comfort zone. By asking someone to hold you accountable in a supportive way, your project/goal will become a ‘positive pressing’ priority. Choose someone who has your best interest at heart and ask them to check in with you to be sure that you are on track. Be sure to celebrate your milestones and end result together.

3.  Set a commencement date

Now that you have a clear project, a when by date and someone to hold you accountable, you are ready to set a formal start date. Give yourself time to plan and prepare. Yes plan being the ‘operative’ word. For example if you have a when by date to complete your taxes by July 1st with a start date of June 1st, you will need to give yourself a chance to clear your schedule to get the necessary forms and resources in place before you get into trouble and put yourself under pressure. Too often we plunge into a project without a plan and end up getting frustrated and overwhelm because of underestimation of time frames to get things done.

4.  Set clear boundaries to support your progress

Think of this step as casting a wide net around you and your project so you are protected while you work. For example, if you need to complete a report for your job, you will want to schedule uninterrupted time in your office. This might require a conversation with co-workers about needing space and a willingness to avoid emails and phone calls until you have completed the job. Ask yourself “What boundaries do I need to put in place in order to have the emotional and physical space I need to get this project completed?”

5.  Take frequent breaks

Often when I coach clients to complete a tough project, they often start with a ‘push through to the end’ mentality. For example, they are willing to work ridiculous hours at the expense of their lives. While this might get the project finished, it forms a negative relationship to project completion which only fuels procrastination in the future. You will want to create a positive relationship by taking frequent breaks. Enjoy the process and give yourself a break during the project planning.

6.  Identify your ‘WHY’ – keep them in view

When the project is complete how will your life improve? What are the benefits of completion for you? Identify 3 benefits you will receive from completing your project, put them in writing and keep them in view. There are many benefits to completing a project – the satisfaction of a job well done, the peace of mind that comes from no longer beating yourself up for not acting plus the many physical benefits that go along with your completed project.

Many parts of life is about the process of completing projects in some form or another. What project has been hanging over your head? This month, follow the 6 steps and free yourself from the bonds of incompletion and procrastination so you can enjoy more of your precious time.

“First, have a definite, clear practical idea; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end.” – Aristotle.

Become Aware of Your Self-Statements

Much of your communication to yourself is through self-statements. These self-statements, which form part of the stream of your inner dialogue, determine how you will act out your future. The quality of your self-statements is that they either empower, or they limit you.

Words are the basis of all your self-statements. In your mind you link words to images that will be associated with past experiences, whether positive or negative. Words trigger off powerful associative images, especially if they are backed up by strong emotive feelings. Say to yourself, “I will never be successful”. Now say that again, with real emotion, and it becomes a powerful directive that will program your subconscious mind to create a limited behavioural pattern.

There is no way you can feel inclined to ‘be successful’ when you are making this kind of limiting self-statement. As your subconscious does not have the capacity to discern whether you mean what you say or not, it acts out ‘to not be successful’ as an action. Your subconscious mind is literally programmed by your inner communication. How you communicate with yourself determines your outcome.

You can see how imperative it is that you become aware of the statements you make to yourself. As you move through your day, pay attention to the way in which you talk to yourself, and to your choice of words. Remember – everything you tell yourself is acted upon, because your subconscious mind is unable to discriminate.

Self-affirmations send positive messages to your mind. When you are frustrated because you feel you are not achieving or moving forward in your life, or you find it hard to view yourself differently, or you are not losing the weight you are working hard at losing, or your finances are not improving – then improve your potentiality through affirmative self-statements! You can support your intention to achieve your goals by becoming aware of the limiting self-statements you make. The next step is to replace them with positive self-affirmations and take the necessary actions to close the gap each day.

“Gained New Marketing Skills resulting in New Clients, Completed Projects with Repeat Business…

“Gained New Marketing Skills resulting in New Clients, Completed Projects with
Repeat Business from Clients, a Growing Confidence in Creative Ability and
Pro-activity Taking the Next Steps to Success.”

Before attending Annette’s coaching program, I ran a dysfunctional business that was stagnant and I had no focus or direction. I didn’t act on my new ideas and they were therefore dismissed. I was confused as to what I wanted.

Then I found direction, freedom, brilliant creative ideas and passion in my work. I followed through on my goals and watched my business grow.  I am now proactive and confident and also excited about the future I see for myself.

During the coaching I received tools that gave me more confidence in myself, motivation to act on my desires, respect and acceptance of others and a peaceful mind free from stress. And best of all the ability to go after what I want, be successful in achieving results and the know how to nurture myself and continue to generate new triumphs.

The 3 most significant improvements are Web and graphic design projects successfully completed with repeat business from clients. New marketing skills resulting in new clients. A growing confidence in my creative ability and proactively taking the next steps to my success; thanks to you and your coaching program.

If I didn’t do the coaching with Annette, I would continue to be negative, confused and going nowhere with my business. I would also be wasting precious time wallowing in this state of mind.

I now have a functional business that I love.  A commitment to my success that I know I will achieve. My work is not just an income, but a passion which is completely satisfying, and I am motivated to have it grow and develop into more than I imagined. And the bonus is with what I have learnt from Annette, this has spilled over into other areas of my life.

Alli Sylvestre
GetNet Web Design / Artist

www.getnet.net.au

www.allisylvestre.com.au

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